Children are an asset to many pursuits. But if it is not properly nurtured and directed, that resource becomes useless. Therefore, parents have many responsibilities toward their children. At the same time, to make the child a responsible and reasonable person through proper guidance. Various aspects of the child development guide for parents were discussed.
Child development guidelines for parents
The right direction is essential for the child to grow up correctly. Below are some important guidelines for parents to develop their children.
Sports for children to grow up healthy
Sports are an innate need of the baby. Rather many times a child’s healthy growth is hindered if his childhood sports are interrupted. Present your child’s age-appropriate toy. Give him simple normal toys first. Then give him a toy to play with which will not only give the child the pleasure of playing but will also give him the ability to think. And will help him discover and innovate (there are some toys that can be opened and reassembled).
And one can make different shapes with another. You will see that those who make children’s toys advise on age-appropriate toys for children and they also say that any toy will be suitable for children of any age.
According to their advice, choose a suitable toy for your child. Keep toys that will be painful for your child. Keep away from toys that are harmful to your baby. You see, there are some toys that create panic in your child.
Again there are some toys from which harmful monstrous sounds tend to come out. Which can be harmful to your child’s ears and hearing. There are also some toys whose sharpness can cause harm to your child’s body. Protect him from such harmful toys.
Keep an eye on your child when he sits down to play. And if necessary help him in his game in the right way. Be careful not to ruin his game by helping. Sometimes you can be his playmate.
Get used to living a normal life
Make him accustomed to the simple attire of life. Because living formal is comfortable for everyone. Many of the hardships and sufferings of parents and children are alleviated by being accustomed to the normal way of life.
In order to get the child accustomed to a normal life, a rough outline of home life should first be set. Like when he will do homework when he will go to bed at night when he will wake up in the morning. Then it is necessary to determine the necessary tasks for him. Such as assisting with household chores. Sharing work and leisure time.
Getting used to some basic and general values. Respect such adults. Helping the little ones. Getting parental permission to do anything outside of regular work. Borrow any materials as needed. Or go to visit a friend or invite him home. In these cases, the child should take the permission of the parents.
Fortunately, these rules are not Shari’ah provisions that, once determined, can no longer be reversed. Nor is it the Qur’an that cannot be changed. This policy of the house may be as flexible as possible if any modifications or additions or deletions are required.
Creating a healthy and conducive environment
For various reasons, one child cannot grow well. When Allah has empowered the parents, they should strive for two or more children. Because by adopting more than one child, parents basically create a healthy and conducive environment for the healthy upbringing of their child.
One child grew up with the mentality of intimacy. Because, he becomes accustomed to the habit that all the things, all the toys, and all the attention and caress of the parents are for him alone. No one else is involved. And he grew up as a hostile child.
Because he became interested in getting everything and everyone’s caress exclusively for himself. Growing up all alone, he became an empty, empty man. No one is by his side as a sincere companion in life. Not to talk or play with. Living alone, he continues to grow up as an introverted child. Not even a speck of sociality is created in him.
Numerous more such problems arise in a single child. I will talk about how many more. Now if this one child is due to the will of Allah, there is nothing for the parents to do, then there is nothing more to say.
There is no one who can shake the command of Allah. But if the parents are actually able to have more than one child, then they should have at least two children. And try to make sure that the two children are close in age.
As a result, they will grow through understanding each other. Although sometimes they will oppose each other. And they will continue to grow with each other in friendship and love.
Although occasionally for some reason they will become harsh towards each other. But even more, comforting is the fact that raising two or more children of the same age is not an additional hassle for parents, but rather easier.
At Our Thoughts
Neither parent will overturn the other’s decision. And when the father punishes the child or scolds him for any reason, you should not run away and take the child in your arms or indulge him in any way.
But at the same time, you have to be careful. Don’t let your consensus be such that your child will feel that he or she is completely ignored by you. Nor should your consensus give rise to the strong idea that he is the only one in the face of a double whammy.
Your mutual support should not be such that he remembers that his parents are helpful to each other in threatening or punishing him. The consensus I am talking about is by no means intended.
I would rather say that it is a joint decision of yours in terms of formulas and procedures adopted in its observance. I am not talking about your combined force on the subtle and sensitive mentality of the child. If he does, he will be crushed. God forgives.
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