Every moment since the baby was born has become very important. This is the time to take special care. Because not following the rules properly can lead to major accidents. In the same way, you have to take care of the baby more carefully from birth. So the baby is from the mother’s womb to the earth and you have to be very careful from the ground up.
Caution with children
Every moment of child-rearing has to be observed with caution. Here are some tips to help children:
How many years can a baby be breastfed?
Many mothers in our country do not know for how many years infants can be breastfed. In this regard, Allah has clearly instructed in verse 233 of Surah Baqara of the Qur’an, up to two years. This means that a baby can be breastfed for two years or 24 months after birth.
Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) said, If a woman gives birth to a child in nine months, then the period of breastfeeding is 21 months. And if the child is born in seven months, then the period of drinking will be twenty-three months. And if the child is born in six months, then the period of breastfeeding will be two full years. Because Allah Ta’ala has said, the gestation period is thirty months.
In the case of a second child, giving less importance to the first child
This is not a good thing at all. But most parents and others in the family do this wrong thing. If the first child and the second child are about the same age then this problem becomes more and more evident day by day.
The first child feels helpless, he gets angry day by day because of neglect, considering his younger brother or sister as an enemy, can’t stand him, and hurts him whenever he gets a chance.
Due to giving less importance to the first child, his mind is under a lot of stress day by day. It can make her sick, it can damage her education, and can reduce her love for her parents.
From the moment the second child is conceived, the first child must be informed that a younger brother or sister is coming. She loves him a lot, will play with him, and so on. In this way, the first child has to be mentally prepared.
If the first child is 5 plus years old, he or she may be involved in some newborn activities. However, parents should try to give a little time to the newborn as well as the previous children. Otherwise, they will resort to violence.
If children get pain while playing
Many times children get pain while playing, maybe their hands and feet are somewhere, and maybe they bleed or sprain. Some parents do not sympathize with their child for the accident but reprimand him. As the saying goes, it’s better you die, do more, etc. Parents treat their children well but at the same time treat them inhumanely. Children can get hurt when they play. Then it is not right to despise him without showing sympathy. He was severely traumatized.
It is not right to discriminate between children
Parents need to be aware of one more thing, and that is not to discriminate between children. Some of their children often look at their children differently, love each other differently, and give different importance to each other.
For example, all the children are sitting at the dining table eating together, where perhaps the best items are often given to one child, it hurts to think of other children. Remember that all children are the same parents. If the parents are biased towards them then they can easily understand and suffer a lot. It damages the child’s education and diminishes respect and love for parents.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, Your children have equal rights and equal treatment as you have the right to be respected and honored by children.
The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Fear Allah, and do justice to your children.”
It is not advisable to leave young children at home alone
Has my child been able to stay home alone? Parents often need to leave their children alone at home. If there is no adult at home and the child is not fit to be alone, then it is not right to leave him alone at home. There are laws in the United States and Canada.
It is a crime for a parent to leave a child under the age of 12 alone at home. If a parent commits this crime, they can be jailed or fined. There are many reasons for this. Accidents can happen when a child is alone at home. Kids are stupid, they can do nothing but play tricks and curiosity.
Let’s mention a true fact. On the eighth floor of the building we live in Toronto, there are two boys in one family, one about five and the other about six. One day their mother left her children at home and went to the flat on the same floor for some work. The kids have already put their two small umbrellas in the kitchen oven as part of the two games and turned on the oven. As a result, after a while, the fire started and the fire service vehicle came and extinguished the fire.
Leaving a child alone at home can lead to many more accidents such as, he can play with knife scissors, climbing on the porch railing, going to the roof, play with matches.
Kids’ commonsense works so much that when adults are at home they usually don’t play with any of the adult things. They usually do their job when no one is at home, they feel independent.
It is not right to touch children
We were beaten a lot by our parents when we were young. At school, when I think of the teacher’s cane house, I still feel nervous. However, they may have raised their hands in our best interests. At that time the process of correcting children was inhumane which neither child psychology nor Islam supports.
In North America, it is a criminal offense to touch a child, be it a parent or a schoolteacher. Also, hitting someone in the face is strictly forbidden in Islam.
Children under the age of ten should be provided with a separate bed
In our culture, children usually sleep with their parents. Now the question is, how old can children sleep with their parents? In the authentic hadith of Abu Dawood, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “When children are ten years old, they should be given separate beds so that they do not sleep with their parents anymore.
At Our Thoughts
If every mother can properly comply with all of the above, then hopefully her baby will grow up very carefully. So conscious mothers should create a risk-free environment for their children.
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